Monday, April 14, 2014

The Office Fashionista- 4/11/14

HOME RUN

4/11/14


A baseball tee, skinny jeans and flats make for a perfect casual Friday outfit. I'm lucky enough to be allowed to wear jeans on Fridays. My flats are seriously SO comfy. These little guys are from Urban Outfitters, probably 3 or 4 years ago. I seriously kept looking down at my feet to make sure that I didn't walk out of the house in my house slippers by accident. These flats are THAT comfortable! 

Spring has finally sprung in NYC and I've taken a BIG risk.. and put away my winter coat. Hope I won't need it for a verrrrrry long time. This gorgeous sunshine and weather couldn't make me happier. What a wonderful way to end the work week. Happy Friday, my friends! 



P.S! My hairstyle is super easy to do.  (From Twist Me Pretty!)

Tee: J. Crew 
Jeans: Forever 21
Flats: Urban Outfitters, old. Similar here.
Necklace: Bauble Bar, no longer available. Similar here
Lipstick: On Fire Red by Revlon 

Photos by Jessi 

Monday, April 7, 2014

Caravan Stylist Studio & KahriAnne Kerr Spring Preview

Before I begin this post, I really need to air some things out. Many of you know that I attend numerous fashion events throughout the year. I'm not part of this world, but in a way slowly I have. This doesn't make me any less analytic or real about this industry. There will always be designers, publicists, editors, models, stylists who believe they are above you and possibly that you don't exist. What I say to that is, "Your lost"; because I know I am going to keep doing big things and I will never forget.

As my favorite magazine editor said in this month's issue of Women's Health, "Beauty has become less exclusive and more inclusive." She's amazing isn't she. "If you can afford to go to a fancy salon and have every strand on you head or every lash on your eyes tended to, then great! But if you can't, that doesn't mean that you won't look (and feel) amazing too."

When I heard the KahriAnne Kerr Preview was at the Caravan Stylist Studio (CSS), I wasn't sure what to expect. For I am not cool enough to know where or what that was. Therefore it was a surprise to me when I entered the room and overheard more about the studio. "Majority of our clients are celebrities and people of influence," a make up stylist said. "Designers are not charged to be a part of the studio. Nor are the guests. The goal is to connect talent with fashion designers and to build relationships between the two parties." Everything is funded by the sponsors of the products they use. This is where the infamous, "Who are you wearing?" question on the red carpet comes into play. That one question alone can produce millions. 

During my time in the studio, I snapped a couple of photos but didn't really have a guide to what was going on. Other women talked, stylists name dropped, women drank wine, and the designer stood near her clothes. There wasn't much for me to bring back to you folks, but I did try seeing the brighter sides of things. This is one more exclusive high end place we now know about. Therefore if you have a red carpet event you would like to have a pampered moment for, look into CSS. And the KahriAnne collection was just as exquisite as last year. Darker colors, chic, and edgy. Glad to have the opportunity to see another collection of hers.

Take a look for yourself and see what these brands are made of. 


  



Monday, March 31, 2014

The Office Fashionista- 3/9/14

As I have said before, I am going to start having regular guest bloggers post onto the blog. My first one up is The Office Fashionista, Abira. I'm very excited to have this new partnership. More is to come. 

THE SHIRTDRESS

3/9/14



I’ve been wanting to break out this shirtdress for the longest time. It's really more of a spring/summer dress since it's so light, but... this brutal winter has left me so tired of constantly wearing sweaters. I love this shirt dress because it’s SO versatile – It pretty much goes with everything. I can wear it with bold tights, bare legs, leggings, patterned tights .. or even tuck it into dress pants of jeans if I wanted to. 

I paired the shirt dress with striped tights that I snagged at H&M recently, a pair of old booties, and an old necklace. I love that the necklace is super grungy looking. I really think it balances out the softness of the dress out. My friends call this necklace my bike chain necklace. I guess the description fits!

I am just obsessed with this lipstick. I saw it at CVS and I’m seriously in love with Revlon’s lipstick. They never do me wrong! Sometimes drugstore lipstick is the way to go. I love the brightness of this color and how it just pops – It’s super flattering. PLUS, I hardly have to reapply. If you’re looking for a fun color, this is it. 



Dress, old from Forever 21. Similar here.
Tights, H&M. Similar here.
Necklace, old from Forever 21.
Booties, Rampage via TjMax. Similar here
Lipstick, Fuschia Fusion by Revlon

Photos by Jessi

Tuesday, March 25, 2014

Gospel Girl: One

A lot of friends tell me that some of the stories I tell them about my life are crazy. But I say, "I can make up all the stories I want, but not these." And one person said I should make a series called Gospel Girl. I agreed. I said, "One day". The infamous one day. Well... I was looking through an old journal of mine and realized, I have a blog, why not write some things on there. Of course Gospel Girl would be semi fabricated but I'm thinking I would more so collaborate different lives together. Unlike Samantha in My ____ Life, this new character is going to have a very different lifestyle.


God is her father, but also her husband. At least that is what we told her when we had a bible study with her. I don't think we realized that didn't make much sense, but we pretty much say whatever we have to say to convince them to get baptized into our church. This may sound manipulative but it's the honest truth. I can't lie anyway because I'm a disciple... to you that means I'm a Christian. A high strung one. Only been around for a year and I'm starting to question why I'm here. They're nice people and all but there are some serious issues in this place.

The other day I left church and was talking to one of the girls I get discipled by. Oh yes, discipled. It means they basically coach you on how to keep your life adjacent to the bible. Kind of like a mom hitting your hand when you are about to touch the fire. But in their case, many times it's also after you touch the fire. Oops. Or even before the thought of touching the fire enters your head. Anyway, so my discipling partner (person I get hit on the hand by) was talking to me about talking too much during church. I listened, said she was right and blah blah blah. But what caught my eye was one of my friends very upset standing outside alone. I waited until my DP (discipling partner) got distracted and was saying hello to someone else before I walked over. My friend... Brenda... yeah Brenda wasn't sure how to explain why she was upset. 

"I asked him to come here. No one else cared what he was up to or how he's been." she mumbled. 

I asked her who she was talking about and it was about a boy named Gordon. He used to go to our church but he left to carry on with his sinful ways. I heard he was possibly sleeping with Brenda but I didn't want to bring that up. 

"I hate when people are phony. If you aren't his friend, then don't pretend like you are." she shouted. 
I nodded my head. 
"Why do I even care? Let them go to the movies." she continued. 
"Brenda, it sounds like you have a lot to say about this situation but you aren't really explaining what has you so upset." I pointed out. 
She took a deep breath, "Obviously you know Gordon fell away (left the church). Well I invited him to come to church today. I really encouraged him to. Even said we'd hang out after. But now he's going to the movies with Michael and Frank, when both of them seemed to have forgotten he still existed. And I'm shut out." 

I understood a bit more now. At our church, once people leave... "fall away", they are basically shunned. They are shunned in the most silent way, but it's still the same feeling. People you thought were your friends stop calling, talk about you behind your back, pray for you cause your life is going to be SO horrible. But Brenda is one of those people who doesn't believe in doing that. Unfortunately for her though, in the this situation, it has made people "concerned" for her. Hence why I heard Gordon and her were sleeping together. 

"I know I shouldn't be this upset, but this sucks. I hate this." she said low. 

I hugged her and told her it'd be okay, there would be other times they could hang out. But of course with other disciples around to protect her. She understood. 

"I think that Frank and Michael just say an opportunity to maybe get Gordon back to God. And a girl may be distracting from that." I added. 
Brenda grunted a little. I looked at her and she rolled her eyes. 
"Cause my lady parts will make him come back to the church for me and not for God. So ridiculous." She said bothered. 
"It happens. Not saying it will happen here but it has. Doesn't hurt to be careful." I said. 
She nodded. 

Deep down, I think she does like him but that was a battle she was going to have to face all on her own. Meanwhile, Frank, Michael and Gordon waved to us as they walked out the building. 

"Hey, aren't we going to hang out?" Gordon shouted to Brenda. 
"No, go ahead. Call me later." she responded.

I smiled. Brenda made the right choice in allowing Gordon to have a chance to fight for his relationship with God. Many times we can be selfish. We meaning humans. We want what we want and think minimal about the effects it has on others. Without assuming too much, I think Gordon came today because he knew it would make Brenda feel better about whatever they are or aren't doing. Possibly the thought hasn't entered Brenda's mind yet, but I am confident that it has in Gordon's. He wants to sleep with her. And she will want to hold his hand, then kiss him and eventually want to sleep with him as well. This is how sin works. It manifests within us, takes it's time to come out. Which is why we have DP's. We talk to them weekly and get their input on every thought, concern, dream, temptation and so on. The one thing I pray for constantly is the gift of honesty. I want to be able to speak about anything. Be open about my sins. Avoiding the embarrassment isn't worth going to hell over. 

Monday, March 3, 2014

#PROJECTMOVEOUT : Success once again

I thought I would revisit my very first post on this blog.

"As I watched the VH1 Behind the music episodes about Jennifer Hudson and Jennifer Lopez and then a E! Special about Jennifer Aniston (What's with all the Jennifer's?)... I felt inspired to make it in life. But then I thought to myself, what does that even mean? What makes one a success?

I asked a friend this evening what does it exactly mean to be successful. In conclusion of the conversation... neither of us knew the answer, but did know it can be personally defined by anyone and everyone.

All I do know for now is that I'm starting here in my journey to finding it. More so continuing it, cause realistically it's already been a long road. And in my eyes, I'm already partially successful.

So tell me... What is success to you?"



#PROJECTMOVEOUT : Great People...

Great people talk about ideas.
Average people talk about things.
Small people talk about other people.


Great people don't say "I'm not going to do it because they didn't." Great people say, "I'm going to do it because this may potentially produce change."

I personally find it pathetic that there are people who think so small. Allowing others' actions dictate what they do. And I don't mean peer pressure to choose strawberry ice cream over chocolate. I mean really heavy stuff.

Often I am told I have natural leadership qualities. And I see it. When I'm passionate about something, I make other people aware. I don't allow others' convictions to steer mine. Thankfully (but sometimes annoyingly) I have close friends who are the same with theirs. This challenges us to be even greater than what we already are.

With that said, I want to take this time out to encourage everyone to stand up and stand their own ground. Don't worry what someone else is doing. Worry about what you're doing. I remember when my mother used to tell my brother and I just that. He'd be mad and say, "Well she isn't doing it." And my mom would say "Don't worry about what she's doing," And she's right, there was no relevance. Focus on yourself and your quality of work will be better. Your influence will be contagious. You will make a difference even without the intention to.

Pay attention to what you're doing.

Monday, February 17, 2014

Happy Valentine's Day - Online Dating: Part II

Happy Belated Singles Awareness Day!

My day consisted of getting lots of work done and not remembering it was Valentine's Day. I think the snow really crushed many couples' plans for the evening. Although I'm sure they found something to do indoors.

It's about time I write another entry about online dating and share what else I have learned and experienced since the last one. Surely it is going to very informative.

Rule 1: Don't forget about "He's Just Not That Into You"

Since my last post I have stayed on two apps. And I have met up with a couple of guys. And I am still single but mingling a lot more. I'm okay with that, but what I'm not okay with is that I'm mingling with guys that don't quite know how to date. What I mean by this is... go on dates. Date. Meet for lunch, brunch, dinner, drinks, a movie, a carnival, a concert... I think I make myself clear. Men seem to want to take you on A date and then expect to get something in return. This I have begun to call, "He's not THAT into you but he is into your vagina". He believes you're attractive, funny, smart and maybe even possibly someone he can be with on a steady basis, but he gets less and less interested the longer it takes to see your "friend". 


At the same time Ladies, we aren't much better. I remember that one scene in the movie of He's Just Not That Into You, where Ginnifer Goodwin is told by Justin Long about how women deceive themselves into thinking they had this really amazing date, when in fact it was mediocre; but we insist on making this grand fantasy in our heads. Raise your hand if you have been there? Be honest. I have, I admit. And when I realized that I had lied to myself and made it seem like I actually enjoyed a date... I stopped myself. 

"If a guy treats you like he doesn't give a shit, it's because he doesn't give a shit." 
"If a guy wants to see you, he will make it happen."
"The spark thing is bullshit"

If he doesn't call you, he does not want to call you. In college, one of my sorority sisters asked me what I thought about a guy not texting her back much or at all because his grandfather died. I told her, he probably isn't really interested. Why? It's because I know that if someone (male or female) is going through a hard time with something, we go to someone who makes us feel like everything is going to be alright. So I ask, if you were going through a hard time, wouldn't you want to text the girl who makes you smile?

Gentlemen, women thrive on the drama. They will chase you and not even like you. My hand is raised. It's embarrassing but I said I would be honest with my readers. I texted and called a guy so much that he really thought I was head over heels for him. Quite frankly, I just had time to. Was trying to text my friends less because they have lives and I was out getting my own (outside of work). Another guy, Mr. BossRiot, had me smitten. I really did like him and can not tell you why. Perhaps it was just an ego booster, which is the most honest reason I can give you. So even after I found out he was lying to me about his testosterone problem, his age, being single; I still entertained myself by still communicating with him. I'm sure he thought I was in love. Do you get where I'm going with this? Needless to say, months later I saw him and his girlfriend walking down the street hand at hand. Yup.

Rule 2: Know what you're looking for

You may think you know, but have no idea what you're looking for. One of my friends is on a dating app and hasn't met anyone in person yet.  I think he may be unsure of what he is exactly looking for, or possibly scared of what he may find. OR knows exactly what he wants and has not found it. See what I did there.

I think as human beings, we long for many things and intimacy is one. With that said, intimacy can be masked in so many ways. Family, friends, romance, sexually and whatever else you can think of. Your job is to figure out which one you are looking for. Do you want to be closer to your family members? Or do you want a fling? Or do you want to be romanced by someone? Romance and Sex are very different, FYI. Therefore you need to know what you want before you go out looking for it on an online dating tool. 

Rule 3: Relax

Exactly, Relax. There is no need to stress over something that is actually supposed to be non stressful. Dating is supposed to be fun. We shouldn't make it complicated or dramatic. Granted it probably won't be that simple either. Therefore in the end, make it worth it.


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A few articles that may help you decide what's the best way for you to use online dating apps.
5 Fundamental Truths of Online Dating

There Is No Difference Between Online and ‘Real-Life’ Dating
Love, Lies and What They Learned



Movies I suggest you watch. 


He's Just Not That Into You


Friends With Benefits


Books to check out.




The Hookup Handbook (Back to the basics)

The Rules is another book woman love to read. I read it once, it was alright. Not as impacting to me. 

Tuesday, February 11, 2014

RC3 Fashion Week Coverage: Lulu*s Style Studio

Although Fashion Week was supposed to be low on the priorities list this season, I couldn't help myself. You meet the greatest people/connections. The best and worst events are thrown. Oh wait, and the clothes. Fashion, fashion, fashion.

I chose to go to the Lulus.com event. It was a Style Studio full of bloggers, young fashionistas and eager guests. So much so that I heard a small catfight break out. "You don't know how psycho I am!" was shouted. I think we were all embarrassed for the girl who looked like she just rolled out of bed. As another guest said later on that night, "I don't know how psycho she was but I believed her. She was definitely ready to fight. She was already in her sweats AT a fashion event." Who does that?

With how crowded and uncomfortable but comical things started that night, it was worth the wait. The Lulus team definitely made a great impression. Everyone was happy to help attendees with coat check, understanding the flow, check in and schedule. The only not so nice person I encountered was a woman at one of the vendor's table (I'll keep the company nameless). Otherwise everyone was very helpful and pleasant. And kudos to Stephanie, who was my contact person.

I must admit that when I received the invite for this event, I wasn't familiar with Lulus.com. Sorry. But I quickly looked into it. First stop was their website which has a my RC3 Design stamp of approval. Then I read the "About Us" page. Quickly I realized that both RC3 and Lulus support emerging fashion designers. On top of that, I found out my fellow alumna, Dina Deleasa (Married to Jonas), follows the company on Instagram. So I figured, I've got to check out this Style Studio.

There were so many freebies. I didn't snag any but now I'm thinking maybe I should have taken a break from blogger mode to partake in the fun. Instead I speculated and had girls ask me if I was in line over and over. It was cute that no one just skipped me. Very polite crowd, I tell you.

Next time you're looking for something new to add to your closet, stop by Lulus.com (which E!News just suggested a jumpsuit from for Valentine's Day looks). Especially if you're a trendsetter. I'm sure they'll have something perfect for you.